Burn

June 30, 2009 at 10:10 am | Posted in Compulsions, People, Threats | Leave a comment
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Highly effective, but hard to reverse.

Relationships are difficult. The gulf between how you think you’re doing, and the reality, may cause you to ‘burn’ the friend you thought you had.

For example, you may believe for years that your keen interest in someone’s acting career is a mark of respect. They, however, feel belittled by your constant interrogations about their progress. When you learn of this disparity, you’ll feel crushed.

‘Burning’ is a destructive exercise designed to remove all reminders of your painful failure to relate. It involves eradicating the person from your life.

Cards, letters, emails, photos. You may even rip the dedications from books they’ve given you. Or sell the books on eBay.

There’s always a chance you’ll reconcile (and therefore feel very silly for your over-the-top reaction). Alas, the intense hurt you feel at having tried so hard but failed so utterly makes this unlikely.

The answer is counselling. A good practitioner can teach you to read social signs (instead of your own cracked compass). Unfortunately, this road can be hard and long.

Brought to you by Imagine Day.

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